Single Mom’s and Summertime….Guest Blogger Columba Lisa Smith

Today I have asked my writer friend Columba Lisa Smith to guest blog while I take a break from writing!  I met Columba at Mt. Hermon Christian Writers Conference two years ago and love her writing style.  She writes about being a single mom and her faith in Jesus.  Enjoy her post, and check out her blog SingleMomFaith.com.

Summer in the Fast Lane

It happens every summer.

My three teens and I stagger to the end of an intense homeschool year. I hope to catch up on a few projects, visit with friends, perhaps review some college information with the kids.

Also, paint a few rooms, remove all fire hazards from the yard, organize my files, finish my novel and my single mom book, start a freelance business, resolve my past, secure my future, write my will, and maybe even date again.

And boys, would you
PLEASE CLEAN YOUR BATHROOM!!!

I don’t like being out of control. As a single mom, I feel pressured to handle everything. And launching my teens into adulthood is an emotional roller coaster, whooshing me daily from the heights of gratitude and glowing pride to the depths of anxious self-doubt.

Stress, anyone?

Recently, God handed me my summer survival kit: I was invited to a Beth Moore Bible study on Proverbs. My daughter babysits while I fellowship with other moms and soak up Beth’s deep, profound teaching via our weekly DVD lesson. It’s an oasis. I’m super thankful; and my daughter can pay for her violin lessons. Bonus!

Last week, we learned about the heart. Some inner pain is so unique that no one else will ever quite grasp it. Even those who have experienced trials similar to our own can’t understand exactly what we’re experiencing, because everyone processes differently. This can be terrifying.

Sometimes, a mom will tell me that her husband travels a lot, “so I’m a single mom, too!” I want to scream, “No! You’re not! You have no idea what single moms go through!” But even other single moms can’t relate exactly to my experiences. We all live unique variations on the theme, and interpret life uniquely.

Beth shared a reassuring Biblical truth from Saint Augustine:
God is closer to me than I am to myself. He is deeper in me than I am in me, and higher than my highest.

Therefore:
-I don’t have to fear the strange heart pain that I can’t explain to another living soul. God is deeper still. He holds my broken depths.
-It’s OK if I can’t handle my life. God has got this. He’s in it with me.
-I have the luxury of falling apart at His feet. He holds me together.
-I’m God’s business and God’s idea. He is more about me than I am about myself. Everything that concerns me concerns Him more.

God wants to be so close to me that we’re one. Jesus prayed we would all experience this unity: “Righteous Father…I have made you known to them… that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them” (John 17:25-26 NIV).

As I rest in this comforting truth, I automatically produce lasting fruit, without striving. “Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me” (John 15:4 NASB).

It’s the only way to get anything done that really matters.
Raising teens alone is a weighty job. I can’t carry it. This summer, I’m experiencing God’s strong support and fellowship, helping me do what I never could without Him.

Have you ever felt out of your depth? How did God help you through that?

Columba Lisa Smith became a single mom in 2000, when her sons were two and four years old, and her daughter was an infant. She blogs at SingleMomFaith.com, sharing stories of God’s faithfulness that provide Biblical encouragement to single moms. She is also working on her first book, Faith and Single Mom Dilemmas, inviting single moms to a journey of rest in God’s steadfast love.

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